7D 6N Itinerary in Seoul | carol_herbert



Many of you that are following would know i travel a lot and had done so many reviews based on what i experienced and encounter with.

Here is the summary of my travel experiences in Korea for week. You will have to click in the links to read on more . Traveling in Korea is a one major decision i made. I hope some of the places I went and explored could help some of you travelers. I blog for fun and always write straight forward.

Day 1

Korea Day 1: Chungmuro Station + Come On Guesthouse + Namsan Tower



Day 2

Korea Day 2 : Gyeongbokgung Palace + Bukchon Hanok Village + Dongdaemun Design Plaza & Park



Day 3 + 4

Korea Day 3 + 4 : Jeonju + Hanok Village + Happy Memory



Day 5

Korea Day 5 : Nami Island + Petite France



Day 6

Korea Day 6 : Lotte World



Day 7

Korea Day 7 : Incheon International Airport 


pack and head back home 🙂

Please do share your stories with me . I would love to hear from you and your amazing journey on what different experiences you had. It will be fun !

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Korea Day 6 : Lotte World


Strawberries were our breakfast and I went to get my coffee at one the back lane cafes they had. Once I got my coffee, we headed to the subway to get our butts to Lotte World. From Chungmuro, we took the subway towards Dongdaemun Historical Park and then headed to Jamsil. Jamsil is much nearer to Lotte World. We had to find South Gate Entrance in order to get into the theme park. When we reached Lotte World, it was like a mall attached to a hotel attached to a shopping area. I was pretty confused and was kinda walking all around following Evon.hahahahha…We stopped by a accessories shop that were having 50% discounts. Crazily bought some accessories and then headed to get our tickets. Once we entered, the feeling was as if I was entering Disneyland in LA. I was so excited. We got the map and got ready to play all the games and crazy out of this world rides and thank goodness the que wasn’t too long. God’s mercy is always with us. We went on rides and roller coasters and I bet Erica and Elaine were scared to death. I need to get a gopro soon for our next adventure then only I can capture all those crazy rides we went on. The main rides were outdoors and were called Magic Island. It was freezing but we enjoyed all the rides.









We left for Myeongdong after that. We had dinner at one of the Chinese restaurant and went on mainly for the street food. We shopped till we dropped in Myeongdong. Like seriously!!! I went to get my Innisfree products and got some tax refund. Not bad huh?? I also got some masks and some face soaps also. Evon and I went and tried this grilled lobster with cheese.










It cost us about 15000won, meaning about RM60 so we had to share. It was too ridiculous for us to pay each for a lobster. Hence, we decided to share. Two bites gone a pay for a day. Sad right .hahaha….what to do?? With our currency dropping, we can’t afford to waste money just like that. We had to choose wisely on what to spend on and what not to. After shopping and eating and being content with whatever we have, we headed back home happily and satisfied. We rushed to pack and had to get ready all our things as we need to wake up early and head out to get the first subway by 5.30am.

Our flight was at 9.30am so we had to be at the airport to check in and make sure we didn’t have to run for our lives as how we did when we took our flight from Malaysia. We bathed and wore whatever we need so that when we get up, we just need to have breakfast and straight check out and head out. What a week of journey we had in Seoul. I lost my dad’s Innisfree at the airport because I forgot to check the facial wash in. It was 180ml and wasn’t allowed in. I pleaded and beg the person but we ought to follow the rules so yeah. I had to throw it away. My money was gone just like that! HMMPPHHH next time, make sure you check your hand carry bag and make sure you don’t carry any liquid more than 100ml. i HAD LEARN A BIG LESSON FROM HERE.

My next trip will be to Krabi, Thailand.

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Korea Day 5 : Nami Island + Petite France


We woke up pretty early, got our breakfast and did our laundry. Breakfast was the usual bread with strawberry jam. And yes!! Coffee. I got my to go coffee almost every day since they have a lot of cafés to try with.What could I say about Nami Island or should I say Namiseom Island (남이섬 종합휴양지)? Namiseom Island is 63 km away from Seoul in the direction of Chuncheon, and is famous for its beautiful tree-lined roads. We took a bus from Gapyeong to Nami ticketing centre and took a ferry to Nami Island. The place was very cold and it was still winter. You can take the zipwire into Nami but it will cost you about 38,000 won. Crazily expensive for a short time thing that was why we acted sanely and took the ferry instead.


There was also hardened snow that we could play and take pic with. The place was filled with tourist from different nation. My worlds!! I could see the entire world in Nami. One funny thing happened was there were this China people who were willing to take our pics and they talked to us in Mandarin thinking we knew their language. The whole entire Nami Island was like a mini adventure I would say.


They gave us a map to follow and to make sure we had seen the entire Nami and wouldn’t miss any tourist spot. We started at the entrance and followed the map heading towards the winter sonata place of shooting. It was a mandatory spot for us to go and see for ourselves. There were also ostriches and birds going around pecking for food. Since its winter, the stomach gets hungry often. Even we humans also are always finding for food to eat at odd hours due to the coldness. We stopped by a stall to get some hot-dogs to nibble on while waiting for lunch. Thousands of pics we took and I was already exhausted . I don’t know how models do it with photo-shoots. I can’t even stand for just few hours.


Our stomachs were growling as we were walking nonstop the whole entire morning. We went and tried Korean packed lunch boxes ~ Dosirak. The lunch boxes were packed lunch boxes, usually made with seaweed, kimchi, sausage, gochujang, egg and rice. Actually ‪‎this is a traditional culture in ‪‎Korea. At the older generation, Korean parents prepare Dosirak for their children as they go to school. Children put their Dosirak on the charcoal burner and keep it warm until lunch time. Nowadays, Dosirak is the childhood of many Koreans.

After lunch we left for Petite France around 4pm. We rushed because if we were late and reached there by night, we can’t take nice pics with the buildings. We boarded the bus and headed straight there. A French cultural village set in the Korean countryside! Petite France serves as both a French cultural village and a youth training facility (Goseong Youth Training Center), and consists of 16 French-style buildings where visitors can lodge and experience French food, clothing, and household culture. The concept of Petite France encapsulates ‘flowers, stars, and the Little Prince.’


The village contains a memorial hall dedicated to Saint-Exupery, the author of the celebrated French novel, Le Petit Prince (1943) and as such it is called the Little Prince theme park. It also has a gallery displaying sculptures and paintings of le coq gaulois (the Gallic rooster), the national symbol of France; Orgel House where a 200-year-old music box plays a sweet melody; a shop that sells herbal and aromatic products; a souvenir shop; and many other locales where you can experience French culture. The village can accommodate up to 200 visitors with 34 guest rooms that hold four to ten people each. The history of the place is just magnificent. Petite France was also featured on many dramas and variety shows, such as Beethoven Virus, Secret Garden, and Running Man. We toured till around 8pm then left for Gapyeong. From Gapyeong we left for Cheongnyangni Station. We had dinner a School Food and then went on shopping at Lotte Mart in Cheongnyangni Station. Lotte Mart was like a heaven to me. Everything is so cheap and delicious and eye-catching. Even the cheap snacks were out of the mind and shoju was about RM4 there compared to Malaysia is around RM25 per bottle. Can you see the difference? I went shopping like a mad woman and went home with 2 bags full. I don’t know how I survived coming back to the guesthouse at the wee hours , cold and frozen but happy because I bought souvenirs for all.


the map


In courtesy of http://chloewl.blogspot.my/2015/01/guide-to-nami-island-petite-france.html

Korea Day 2 : Gyeongbokgung Palace + Bukchon Hanok Village + Dongdaemun Design Plaza & Park

Rise and shine. On the 2 day of our tour, early morning we had breakfast as usual. Bread + coffee + strawberry spread. This guesthouse we stayed was very accommodating as they transferred us to bigger place since they saw us cramped in one bedroom with 2 double-decker. They shifted us to another bigger place with our very own bathroom. Very kind of them and I think it was God’s blessing too, to have people to take care of us since we had one hell of the journey from Malaysia to Korea. I really like the place as we also had washing machine for us to wash clothes. We didn’t even need to bring many clothes with us .I literally brought 6 shirts and 2 jeans for one whole week. Imagine. Its winter. Nobody is even bothered to see inside.hahahaha. As long you keep yourself and your clothes clean and hygienic , it is good for all.

Moving on, after breakfast, we headed to Chungmuro station to board to our train towards Gyeongbokgung Palace. We arrived just in time to witness the guard changing ceremony. I was in awe when one of the chief guards hit the gong. Call me a jakun (weirdo) but I was like wow! The guards’ uniforms, weapons, and accessories as well as their strict ceremonial procedures catch my eyes most definitely!! And the eyes of passersby, especially foreign tourists (a lot of Malaysians and Cina people I see though). It was interesting to see when the guardsmen perform the changing of guards in traditional costumes at the main gate of Gyeongbokgung Palace in downtown Seoul during winter. Since it is really hard to experience traditional events in such a big city like Seoul, citizens and tourist really enjoy and love it. It takes place every day except Tuesday. Thank God we came on Monday. Weeee… I am so thankful for every event man.. Seriously…



We took lots of OOTD and POTD and Instagram pics. I was super happy because after so long my Instagram was active back again. After taking pics and touring inside the palace, what I adore was the king actually lived in a really big place and environment. We explored the palace and can’t even finish it in 2 hours. Imagine for the king and his men to live in it. Mind blown.. Seriously. Nearby the palace, they had this national museum which had free entrance. The National Folk Museum of Korea presents historical artifacts that were used in the daily lives of Korean people in the past. Fascinating isn’t it? Through the displays, visitors can learn about the domestic and agricultural lifestyles, as well as Korea’s cultural beliefs.

Next we went and explored Bukchon Hanok Village. It was a 15minutes walk from the Palace. As we were walking to the palace, I was fascinated by the architecture of the buildings that they had there. Adding to that, I came across Chicago Pizza and some European based buildings. Taking back in awe, the fine details of the structure kinda made me think that technology and architecture in this part of the world is just another level higher compared to us in Malaysia. We have a lot to learn. Bukchon Hanok Village is like the mega of the Jonker Street we have in Malaysia. They have hundreds of traditional houses, called hanok, that dated back to the Joseon Dynasty. The name Bukchon, which literally translates to “northern village,” came about as the neighborhood lies north of two significant Seoul landmarks, Cheonggyecheon Stream and Jongno. Today, many of these hanoks operate as cultural centers, guesthouses, restaurants and tea houses, providing visitors with an opportunity to experience, learn and immerse themselves in traditional Korean culture. We got lots of cheap socks and souvenirs on our way down towards the village.

We also stopped for lunch at one of the Korean restaurant named Tteokbokki House. We tried most of the famous dishes they had there and all are the most spicy ones like spicy ramen, spicy soup and kimchi fried rice. One thing happened was, we couldn’t find a place to sit as the restaurant was full. So called famous kan? Anyways, we just lined up and waited for our turn. There was one table which an old uncle sat to have his lunch. The waitress saw that it could fit us 4 in and didn’t even hesitated to ask the uncle whether was it ok for us to sit next to him. We were so shy and don’t know where to put our face. I mean, don’t la go and disturb an old uncle eating. WALAO..!!! .ahahahah.,..he didn’t mind thank goodness. We sat and were very paiseh, however he was very friendly to us and was happy to see us Malaysians coming to visit their country. Food was superb and we could see that one bowl of ramen could feed a person in Korea and to contrast with it, actually could feed the 3 of us Malaysians. After lunch, we just roamed around Samcheongdong-gil Road. This road goes through the middle of the city, but is a peaceful, quaint area. The street is lined with cafes, museums, antique shops and a number of famous art galleries. Since each building along Samcheongdong-gil has its own unique architectural design, taking a walk and appreciating the buildings is a journey in itself. Many galleries have their own cafes, restaurants, or craft shops, allowing visitors to enjoy art, shopping, and lunch all under one roof.













Later that evening, we went to the train station to get to Dongdaemun Design Plaza & Park. Dongdaemun Design Plaza (DDP) has a meaning of Dream, Design, and Play. It holds various exhibitions, fashion shows, forums, conferences, and other domestic and international events. It was also a place to shop and they had these amazing flea markets that we could buy souvenirs from.




That night was very cold. I think it hit almost to -4° and we were dancing our way as we took pictures. We ended the day with some hot street food like topokki and grilled squid. For dinner, we just went to the nearest restaurant to get some hot soup to sooth the body.

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Gyeongbokgung Palace

161, Sajik-ro, Jongno-gu, Seoul

서울특별시 종로구 사직로 161 (세종로)

Bukchon Hanok Village (북촌한옥마을)

37, Gyedong-gil, Jongno-gu, Seoul

서울특별시 종로구 계동길 37 (계동)

Dongdaemun Design Plaza (동대문디자인플라자 (DDP))

281, Eulji-ro, Jung-gu, Seoul

서울특별시 중구 을지로 281 (을지로7가)

Swiss Garden Damai Laut Ipoh + Pangkor Island

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Hello readers! I am still writing on my Korea trip so i decided to post my Ipoh trip first since it was just a short trip and i was needed to do a review on it. I got a complimentary stay for 3 days and 2 nights. I was supposed to go with my colleague but she wasn’t free so i took my parents on this trip. How i got the free stay? Well, it was a recommendation by someone who knew me and very mysterious i would say. Someone recommended my number to Swiss Garden Headquarters maybe(not too sure how and why and what) and they called me and invited me to go for hotel review and listen to what they have in store for me. I was hesitated at first but you know how adventurous i can be . I brought my friend along and went for the review which was held in Swiss Garden Johor Bahru. We went on Saturday morning which was the only time free for the both of us.

The Swiss Garden JB is kinda new and situated in the middle of the town. We managed to find the hotel and went straight into the lobby to find out where exactly we supposed to go and who are we to meet with. The lobby directed us to SGI vacation club center on the 1st floor of the hotel. This vacation club is a really good club as they offer really good deals . I can’t explain much because there were too many calculations involved but if you are interested in traveling and staying in 5 star hotels around the world , this package it good.

Anyways, i went and listened and got my free voucher of stay. I was needed to fill in the voucher and fax or email it to them once i have confirmed my dates of stay. The headquarters emailed me the confirmation slip of my stay and i was needed to bring the slip along during check in. The voucher said that we were supposed to only stay from Sunday till Thursday and not during public holiday . I went on bravely to book a Friday till Sunday stay and got it approved. Praise the Lord for his favor. I prayed that they will approve my stay because according to the voucher Friday and Saturday isn’t valid, but mine was a miracle huh?? Once i got the confirmation slip, i started planning on what to do and where to go and what to eat in Lumut and Pangkor Island. Yes,Pangkor Island is just opposite of where i was staying, which was the Swiss Garden Ipoh.

We left for Ipoh on the 21/04/2017 , around 10am ish from Melaka. The journey took us about 4 hours plus and it was kinda horrible when we reached the inside village roads heading towards the hotel. We didn’t knew that the hotel was really quite inside and situated on a hill. The roads i would say was in a horrible state. Capathi roads!! All patched up and so bumpy. Your car alignment will be gone in just few seconds running on those road. But the thing is what is the gov doing about it? I can’t even imagine how tourists are going to come through this road to get to the hotel. Now wonder Swiss Garden is trying their best to promote their hotel since many has been given bad reviews on the road condition. We struggled our way because we really hated the road. Once we reached the apartment lobby to check in, to my surprise, there were only one counter and one computer to check in . Flies were also there since it is fruiting season as per what they said.

Okay,, fine!! Checking in already took almost 10-15minutes since most of the guest are supposed to check in at 3pm but i think due to the road condition , most of us drove slow and didn’t want our car to be damaged. We checked in at 4pm. Once they passed to us the key, we drove towards our apartment and it was confusing to where it was and how to enter in. I assumed that this hotel is kinda old and has been here for many years but none kinda noticed it since it was very old dated and not much advertising has been done. The room given to us was spacious and okay. Floor a bit sticky and the fan/TV/air-condition were very old , like in the 80’s and 90’s. To me, i don’t mind with all these old facilities. I just hate when your TV can’t even get the channels they promised you. Every hotel definitely has their own selected Astro channels and it made me upset when you can only view 3 channels instead of 10 channels. You get what i meant? Next was the stove, at least provide us with newer stainless pots and pans for us to use. The ones we had were so black and we didn’t even dare to use to it to cook our breakfast. We just used it to boil our eggs since we only had eggs and bread for breakfast. Thankfully there was a fridge that we could use to store in our fruits and drinks. The room is clean and bathroom was ok. I would prefer that the toilet and bath tub to be separated. I meant it would be practical that 2 people in the same room wanna use the toilet at the same time , and like for example i wanna use the toilet so badly and my partner wanna bath. Isn’t it a torture? So from my point of view is, separate the toilet from the bath tub. The toilet floor also at least need to be anti-slip as you know sometimes when we bath we will get the floor wet and it will be slippery and dangerous. The hotels nowadays need to check on this simple things that accommodate all,then only we can easily recommend on others to come and stay.

Outside, there were monkeys and i wouldn’t blame the monkeys coming into the hotel compound as their home has been affected. On our way up, we saw a lot of constructing and cutting down of trees to build buildings and clearing for plantation. Sad case for them but good thing for the human, hopefully? It will be dangerous tho at night if you disturb them but so far we didn’t hear any complains for now. Anyways, on our first day, we just headed to town after washing up since we didn’t even take lunch and we were dead tired and hungry. It will take you about 15-20minutes just to get out from the hotel area and head to town about another 10mins. So roughly about 30minutes to reach Seri Manjung town where they had all the restaurants and Jusco/Giant/Tesco. This kind of facilities are good because we are already living in a jungle and it will be a mind torture if we don’t have this malls to chill and window shop. We had dinner at a mamak briyani restaurant just opposite of Seri Manjung Aeon. The food was ok and cheap. After that, we just went to Aeon to walk a bit to digest on our meals and to get some eggs for breakfast. We went home tired and dozed off peacefully.

Day 2, we woke up quite early and my dad cooked breakfast for us. Then after breakfast, we headed to Lumut town to get a ferry to take us to Pangkor Island as what google map says. My dad decided to ask the hotel reception as there were signs saying there were jetty in the hotel. We drove down to the reception and asked regarding the jetty and how to get to Pangkor. The lady said they do provide transportation aka boat heading towards Pangkor but they will charge about RM55 per person for 2 way and it is only 10-15minutes from the hotel. You don’t even need to wait for the jetty ferry to be packed and they will call the private boat to bring you there. My dad said it was too much to pay for just a boat ride, so we decided to take the ferry from Lumut as per what people say and google maps. I wazed the location and it was leading me for an hour trip to Lumut port where we are to take the ferry towards the island.I was using my waze on data at first then I switch off it as waze can run once you switch it on. Somehow the waze or I think it was google map got us into a village which asked us to choose option A, which is taking a ferry from a close by port. But we ended up with no signal so I had to switch on back my data to check whether this is the proper place to take the boat because it was kinda dead-end. We were somewhere stuck at Option A(TAKE FERRY FROM MARINA) as you can see below I print screen. Anyways, we got down and asked the locals whether are we like lost or need to find Lumut port and she said we can actually take a ferry from Marina Hotel which provides RM10 fare for 2 and fro. It was like a bridge opposite and we are supposed to go there.pangkor

Thank God we managed to find the jetty leaving to Pangkor. Once we got down from the jetty, there were so many tourist taxi (van)uncles and people calling out to you to rent out their motorbikes or pink taxis. Yes, they definitely have some bright pink taxis for you to rent. We decided to rent a van for like a half a day kinda thing. The uncle told us he will charge RM70 for 2 hours, but i insisted that he took us around at least half a day or to see the entire Pangkor. He decided to charge us for a reasonable RM80 for the 4 of us.

First, he took us to see the famous Batu Bersurat(sacred rock) in Pangkor. On the waterfront at Teluk Gedong is this mammoth stone carved with the symbol of the Dutch East India Company and other graffiti, including a faint depiction of a tiger stealing a child. Supposedly, the child of a local European dignitary disappeared while playing near the rock; the Dutch circulated the idea of a tiger abduction, although the kid was more likely nabbed by disenchanted locals.The rock is a memorial to a Dutch dignitary’s child who mysteriously vanished during the Dutch occupation. Rumours of a tiger attack were spread by some, while others claimed angry Malays took the child in hopes of ridding Pangkor of the Dutch. A faint, crude carving of a tiger with a child in its mouth, as well as the symbol of the Dutch East India Company, is etched on the side of the rock.


Second, he brought us to the Dutch Fort about 3minutes from the Sacred Rock. According to Wikipedia,the ruins are the remnants of an outpost of Dutch attempts to control trade in the Malay peninsula. In the Malay language, the fort is called Kota Belanda. The Dutch called it Fort Dindingh, after the Dinding River, on the mainland of Malacca. The fort was built by the Dutch in 1670 for storage and protection of tin supplies from the sultanate of Perak. The fort was destroyed in 1690 by the Malays who were discontent with the methods used by the Dutch in obtaining minerals. It was rebuilt by the Dutch in 1743 and a force of 60 soldiers was placed to guard the fort until 1748, when the force was disbanded and the fort abandoned.

Next we went to explore the other parts of Pangkor Island and went through some really small roads. The ride was crazy and fun at the same time. The uncle brought us through some winding roads towards Pasir Bogak . That area has many hotels and resorts and the mini airport was there . They also had huge temples around the villages which wasn’t really of our place of interest. He dropped us off a beach area whereby we can actually take a boat and go island hopping for RM70 (20minutes) but my dad is kinda afraid and doesn’t wanna go. Oh wells!! Then, i asked the uncle to bring us to the Satay factory so that we could buy back some dry food and souvenirs.After shopping , we went to the town to have our lunch as most of the seafood restaurants are only opened during night-time. I was kinda sad because i didn’t get the chance to try the seafood there but there will be another chance, hopefully. We went and tried their chicken rice, curry mee and jawa mee. It was quite good because the cook were all old aunties. Mum bought some anchovies and we headed back home safely. We waited for the ferry around 3pm+ and not too worry because they have ferry every half and hour.

After heading back, we napped and rested till dinner before heading out for some seafood meal and just to walk walk around the town. For dinner , we went and tried Amu Coconut Villa Seafood Restaurant which was in Setiawan. They are famous for their seafood and their pricing is reasonable. We ordered crab meat soup, fried egg with oyster, sweet sour chicken and nyonya stingray. All came in total of Rm80 for the 4 of us. Cheap right?? You guys should go and try . After dinner, we went to Tesco just to walk and chill and get our breakfast and head home to rest.

Day 3, we packed everything before checking out around 10am and then headed to the Segari Turtle Sanctuary .  Located about 2km from Segari Town, near the Lumut Power Plant, this hatchery and research centre offers visitors an interesting and educative tour on these endangered species. There were so many turtles kept for cultivation and rehab. This place is a good exposure for kids to learn about turtles and how are they going into extinction if we people keep making the beach dirty and sea unsafe for these creatures.

After that, we headed to Teluk Intan to see the leaning tower there. On our way, i stopped by Gong Pian biscuits shop but it wasn’t open , i am not too sure why. It was a Sunday tho, maybe it is close on that day. We stopped by at one of the Indian restaurants for lunch and leaded straight towards Teluk Intan. The weather was very hot and we were so damn tired due to the heat. We reached Teluk Intan by late noon and we ran towards the tower and visited it quickly. After taking lots of pics, we ran back to our car and headed back to Melaka. This trip was indeed a good one i would say and i recommend that the hotel should at least upgrade its facilities in order for the tourist to enjoy.

Swiss-Garden Beach Resort Damai Laut

Address: Persiaran Swiss-Garden,, Jalan Damai Laut,, Off Jalan Teluk Senangin,, lumut, 32200 Lumut, Darul Ridzuan, Perak, Malaysia

Phone: +60 5-684 3333


Amu Coconut Villa Seafood Restaurant

Address: 523, Lorong Satu, Kapung Cina, 32000, Sitiawan, Perak, Malaysia
Segari Turtle Sanctuary
Address: 34900 Lumut, Perak, Malaysia


The Dating Manifesto (Part 2)


This was full of ambiguity. Ready or Not? Not ? Maybe yes? HMMM not too sure.. It’s a date, date? Or is it a marriage linked in date? Complicated it seems , but still humans..could you at least give yourself a break? Come on..Its just a freaking dinner. Besides, one needs to date with maturity. This is coming from a biblical view okay. If you want to debate about how the “world-ly” people date , then you can comment below and share your opinions. It is a free world so yeah..Take it or leave it. It is non of my business to care about what you feel because at the end it is you who decides. I am only here trying to share what i have learned and maybe could be of help to certain people who are struggling.

Below are the markers to guide you :-

  1. Understand and live out a biblical worldview – Always be knowledgeable on God’s word. The elders always remind us to do with God’s wisdom and fear.Yes, we may be living in the world, but try not to be of the world. The world God created before wasn’t this pathetic . Now, seeing the world, i myself am afraid of where it is heading towards.
  2. Be accountable to a local church – Be attached to a local church and get connected to the leaders or mentors that could help guide you through. We might be egoistic towards people who are trying to teach us life but trust me, we do need some advice and teaching along the way. Keep you ego aside and be teachable.Many churches here in Malaysia do have mentor-ship* in church and the mentor is to look out for you and groom you to be a leader in the coming years. This is like a life cycle and once you are ready you can lead others.
  3. Learn life skills and shoulder responsibility – Be responsible in a date or relationship. Don’t always wash hands if problem arises . Life isn’t a green path where you have nothing to worry about. Being single is a way for you to walk life with meaningful and purpose and before you get attached , at least there are certain things you could be proud of. Life skills could be anything. Life a purposeful life.
  4. Contribute and lead right where you are – My parents brought me up in a way that i must always contribute wherever i go and whatever i do. Living in this modern world, it is always the best to have a good mindset to keep the active human body going. Being a leader in church, means you have people looking up to you and you must always be the comfort zone , where people could actually look up to and tell their problems. Being in a relationship is also the same. You can be just accepting ones leadership. You also need to contribute and lay ideas and thoughts to keep the ball rolling and to make things interesting.
  5. Grow healthy relationships with family,friends,neighbor and co-workers – It is good to have good relationship with whoever you get in contact with. You will never know at some point in life , you will need them. If you have problems, sort them out. Forgive and give in. Life is short my dear people.
  6. Actively pursue marriage and family , or the next stage of life – This is like dating with direct. Date a person and have the intention to see a future. I mean , if it is like during teenagers time, then it isn’t worth. But in adulthood, time is precious. We wouldn’t want to waste our time going on dates and in the end we are both friend-zoned. Life is super exciting and you definitely need to go up to the next level. Keeping yourself at the same level wouldn’t help.

The Dating Manifesto (Part 1)

The last weekend i drove up to Kuala Lumpur for a conference that was held at Glad Tidings Petaling Jaya. The conference was all about dating and how we suck at it and how we get our games on back. It was a hard reality check for most singles’ as the point Lisa(the speaker) told us was like a slap on the face. I mean like a wake up call sort of. She started by talking about how your love life sucks or you don’t even have a love life. Below are the valid reasons why :-

  1. You’re waiting for THE ONE! (This is just plain crazy.We are so highly influenced by media that we are so focused that we are destined to THE ONE and he will come through our path some how and we will know it or assume God will bring one. The understanding is just wrong. Even i got it wrong. There isn’t such a One but find One and make the person your ONE. See the difference? It is based on your mind and how you see it from maturity. When love comes,you will be blinded. Always make sure you choose wisely. There will be baits so called guys coming after you. But you can’t just wait at the corner for the ONE to come and say he is the One. What if he isn’t? Many things can happen but when you take One and own it and make it yours, it will make a difference.
  2. You haven’t grown up yet!(This applies to all. You could be 40 years old but still act like a child. Suck it up. You need to grow and mature. Think ahead. Plan ahead. Not just simple date and say bye the next minute. Boys be a man. Ladies be a woman. Guys , you mainly need to do more stuff. Examples like holding the door , paying for the meal(i mean like for the few dates that you are still getting to know her or interested in her), lead things and be a gentleman. Lisa told one thing that was on point. We woman are independent and we can stand on our legs but still when it comes to a date, men needs to lead and be domain. Don’t ever let the girls take out her purse to pay unless you are really broke .. HA HA.. anyways,, just be a gentleman lah..It would hurt right? In a relationship or family, the man leads and the woman summits herself to him. It isn’t vice versa you know. Read your bible people. I wouldn’t want to date a guy where i am the one always planning and leading. It is exhausting you know.
  3. You aren’t dating!(This is so me..haha..I mean i have invites, but i tend to not go. I reject some guys just because I am not just into them. You get what i meant. But it was so wrong. I am limiting guys from me and it is bad. You can reject but not until you reject all. Even guys,please i know that you are sometimes afraid of commitments and stuff but come on!! It is just dinner and getting to know one another.Lisa made it clear that you can reject (i mean the girls) but then what if the there isn’t any guys asking the girls out. Is that another problem? So complicated right? That is why we don’t go on dates. We both(girls and guys) analyze stuff too much and keep rejecting and keep not asking people out is such a big mistake. Go out and have fun. Life is short. But always remember to do it with God’s fear.
  4. Your dating is directionless! (Date someone when you have the intention to marry. Or maybe there is a direction towards where you are planning to. Don’t date with no focus. Don’t date just because you feel lonely. Date with commitment. It is serious guys. If you are heading towards your 30s’ , you will know how desperate it is to know that your friends are all getting babies and married and you are still at the same spot doing nothing. Date with a same passion. Date with having the same heart to serve God.
  5. You’re stuck in a friendlationship! (Friendzone case. We are kinda living in society where everyone is your friend. Even guys. You can do stuffs with them. Hang out and talk serious business. But this kind of friendship might be dangerous. We need to at least filter and give space . If every guy is your friend , you will never go on dates , like a one to one. Because the guy will feel the same, as you..I am just hanging out* so what is the big deal right? So it is tough but yea, girls please..get a life..not all can be friends..Limit and filter and maybe some will ask you out.

The full explanation you can read up from here. Check out the organization(Boundless) to help all single people out there that are lost.